It’s a well-known fact, we can’t choose our relatives but we can certainly choose our friends.. But you can’t ignore your relatives if you’re a part of the great Indian family !! I might be biased but I feel friends are a lot more spontaneous and accepting compared to relatives who are constantly sizing you and judging you at every step. It’s quite a sight especially at weddings and family get togethers where I’ve seen people dissecting everything from the decor to the bride and groom’s attire and commenting upon how the arrangements could have been better !! For the past few days I’ve worked from home..when I told an aunt of mine this, she retorted this was something only ayahs did in the past !! I was too dumbstruck to gather myself and comeback with a witty/ snappy enough response. With time I’ve learnt though we can’t choose our relatives, we can certainly choose how we respond to them.. Just ignore the ones who leave a sting and relate with the ones who are spontaneous and warm. A friend of mine told me how she had to grapple with ” When are you getting married,its high time !!” They almost stopped short of telling her she’s on the shelf.. Then there was another friend whose grandmother kept telling her she had to “improve her complexion ” to find a suitable match !!
Such instances and more, make me feel that the perfect Indian family that stays together and stands by each other through thick and thin exists only in Suraj Barjataya’s flicks !! (which has people who are unbelievably good and sacrificing ) Perhaps I’m being too harsh.. and jumping to too many conclusions. You might think otherwise.. if yes do share your take on the dynamics of the grand Indian family !!